Is there any method that can be employed to prevent gossiping?
After taking the various steps to prevent gossiping, if we don’t have efficient programs to follow, it won’t last. We should establish programs that ensure the continuity of our intention to stop gossip. Prophet (ﷺ) said that Allah loves the deeds which are continuous and consistent even if they are small. Even if we perform a very small but continuous effort to give up backbiting, it may please Allah. To do a big deed but just once is also pleasing to Allah, but not like the little deed done consistently.
We should keep track of ourselves, record our daily activities and make a commitment to stop backbiting. Inshaa' Allah everyone will make a commitment to give up gossiping. We ought to make an oath to Allah to stop gossiping from today itself and need to start it now instead of delaying it and making an oath after Ramadan or after Hajj, for we may end up never doing it. By Allah, we will give up gossip, inshaa' Allah. One may also make an additional oath such as fasting or giving a silver coin if one engages in backbiting.
We need to keep track of ourselves and keep a daily diary when we might be tempted to gossip. And also tell others that we have sworn to Allah and are giving up gossiping. We can also help ourselves by the act of self-rewarding. On the one hand it is good to punish ourselves when we do it, while on the other hand it is also good to reward ourselves when we can avoid it.
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